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[求助]有谁懂加拿大的法律？尤其是abuse这块儿

雨过天晴@2007-02-24 12:22

I want my dad to recieve proper punishment for his emotional and physical abuse towards me over the years. so I NEED to have more information on these matters, what I can find on google is very limited.

I'll say this right now: anyone who wants to discourage me can GO TO HELL. SCREW YOU if you want to be a coward, I want to stand up for myself and I am going to.

main event that triggered this:
My dad went to my fashion classroom this afternoon and screamed at me for not picking up my phone, punched me, making me cry, walked out of the classroom with my cellphone, all of this right in front of my teacher and classmates' eyes
He punched me because I tried to explain to him that CELLPHONES ARE PROHIBITED IN THE SCHOOL so I had it on vibrate and didnt hear/feel it. Although it was half an hour after school, I wasnt expecting any calls so I left it that way.

his side of the story: he was trying to contact me for half an hour because he wanted to take me somewhere. He never told me anything about picking me up so there's no reason for him to be angry at ME.

however this decision of making him pay for his deeds is not a result of impulse. yes I am extremely angry right now, but I've been angry at him for almost every day of my life. you tell me there's nothing wrong with his doings when he's putting me down every single chance he gets
my dad has been treating me as if i'm unworthy --- since the moment i was born, LITERALLY. He stood up, walked out, went home and slept upon hearing that I was a girl not a boy.
I simply reached my limit of endurance, I cant take this anymore, so please help me I need to knock some consciousness into his head. for my own sake and my brother's sake....
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mingo@2007-02-24 12:28

竟然出了这样的事情 orz
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雨过天晴@2007-02-24 12:37

大 法 这两个字是不是避屏了？？=v=
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mingo@2007-02-24 12:53

已经屏蔽很久了
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morte13@2007-02-24 13:15

呀,标题被和谐了=__,= 记得我以前打的时候不是&&&&啊.........
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jack34b@2007-02-24 14:01

被虐待了？！
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艾夕@2007-02-24 14:15

I really don't know much about the laws, but I suggest that you talk to a school counsellor first.
Or any of your teachers, I'm sure they can guide you to someone that you can talk to about such matters.

Although...I have heard stories that's similar to yours, the abuser usually ends up having their custody of the child taken away and spend some time in jail depending on how serious the problem is.
So I suggest that you CONSIDER THIS VERY CAREFULLY.

What you dad did is wrong, Such violent act should not be performed on a child.
I understand that what your dad did was hurtful, but consider all possible reasons for him to act such way. Could he have been worried about you because he couldn't get a hold of you? Is life more stressfull recently? etc.

Has he treated you brother the same way? Or is this another one of those good old Chinese gender discrimination?
Most of all, does you mom know about all this?
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jack34b@2007-02-24 17:52

http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/hl-vs/violence/index_e.html
http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/familyviolence/femabus_e.html
http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/ncfv-cnivf/familyviolence/html/femviof_e.html
在西方對此類事件的處罰還是挺嚴格的，所以考慮要慎重，法律是終極途徑，但是忍氣吞聲也不是解決途徑~

可以通過向校方或者社區中心求救，另外如果真的要對簿公堂之類的還有法律援助~
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雨过天晴@2007-02-24 23:23

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最初由 艾夕 发布
I really don't know much about the laws, but I suggest that you talk to a school counsellor first.
Or any of your teachers, I'm sure they can guide you to someone that you can talk to about such matters.

Although...I have heard stories that's similar to yours, the abuser usually ends up having their custody of the child taken away and spend some time in jail depending on how serious the problem is.
So I suggest that you CONSIDER THIS VERY CAREFULLY.

What you dad did is wrong, Such violent act should not be performed on a child.
I understand that what your dad did was hurtful, but consider all possible reasons for him to act such way. Could he have been worried about you because he couldn't get a hold of you? Is life more stressfull recently? etc.

Has he treated you brother the same way? Or is this another one of those good old Chinese gender discrimination?
Most of all, does you mom know about all this?

my brother's still too young to understand anything
but my dad already started calling him "stupid" "ugly"....
虽然我爸觉得只是开玩笑，但如果从小就被爸妈说又丑又笨，潜意识里他自己也会这么觉得了


对了还有，我爸经常说 如果我怎么怎么样了（比如说成绩不好），他就狠揍我一顿然后逃回中国永远不回来了
不管他是不是认真的，这都可以算是威胁了吧

我怕counsellor直接转手给social worker，social worker可烦了……12岁的时候和他们deal过一次
想和学校的law老师咨询一下
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jack34b@2007-02-25 13:52

想不到飄泊在外的網友會有這樣，唉。。。

你爸在這邊沒有工作什麽的麽？
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mfa_AH@2007-02-26 02:19

http://www.justice.gc.ca/en/ps/fm/laws.html#federal
CA的department of justice的网站，关于family violence的页面，下面有些local法规，偶忘了乃归虾米地方管 @_@

他做法肯定是violate law的，但是建议先跟老师商量，说明不希望跟social worker打交道，只是想warn一下

MSN好了再爪乃，大抱～
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雨过天晴@2007-02-27 12:42

看到我爸打我的老师报告给counsellor了……今天第二节课的时候counsellor叫我去谈话 OTL 打扰我睡觉。。555
他们说必须和social worker讲，而且如果我愿意还可以和警察谈话/// OTL
这下根本不用自己去调查了。。。呵呵 呵呵呵
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solid snake@2007-02-27 16:44

u really want this event go big?
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jack34b@2007-02-27 18:58

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最初由 雨过天晴 发布
看到我爸打我的老师报告给counsellor了……今天第二节课的时候counsellor叫我去谈话 OTL 打扰我睡觉。。555
他们说必须和social worker讲，而且如果我愿意还可以和警察谈话/// OTL
这下根本不用自己去调查了。。。呵呵 呵呵呵

8過這樣對你以後的生活和家庭關係都會有重大影響的說~
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雨过天晴@2007-02-28 08:28

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最初由 solid snake 发布
u really want this event go big?

I dont know...... we'll see

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最初由 jack34b 发布

8過這樣對你以後的生活和家庭關係都會有重大影響的說~

反正我知道现在不能什么都不做了
这几年对我来说很重要，我无论如何不能向他们的威胁妥协
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